Weddings are important milestones that mark the beginning of a new journey in life of two people who committed themselves to love and care for each other. However, once you start planning your wedding, you might find yourself too stressed out no matter how calm and composed you might be as a person.
Good thing that Zen and its gentle teachings are here to soothe your nerves.
With the help of Zen teachings, you will soon realize that perfection doesn’t exist. Instead, you need to focus on the things that truly matter. It will set you free so you can be sure that you will have an utterly enjoyable and genuinely wonderful wedding that will be the best and happiest day of your life.
If your big day is just around the corner and you feel the butterflies fluttering, it only makes sense that you try to stay as calm as you can be both before and during this special moment of your life.
Check out the following simple but effective tips on how to be a Zen bride and prevent you from morphing into a scary Bridezilla.
Start Being Instead of Doing
Wedding planning may seem like an endless cycle, from arranging the seats to final fitting of the gowns and suits. Well, here is something you need to know. The cycle won’t end until you make it. Whether you like it or not, you will be left with no choice but to trust that people with their designated roles to do a good job.
This is also the time for you to simply let it all go. Don’t forget that you are the only person who can see that perfect picture you have envisioned in your mind so other people will never be able to make any comparisons. Other people, specifically your guests, will not even notice the differences or those unavoidable things that may go wrong, like the seating chart placed on the right instead of the left part of the entrance.
Instead of stressing about doing, just embrace being the bride and enjoy the ride.
Share a Good Time with Your Bridesmaids
By tradition, the bride shares most morning of her wedding day with her bridesmaids. You can get the best out of this time talking with your closest friends so you can relax. You can share your happy memories together and recall all those funny stories you had through the years including those that happened during your hen or bachelorette party.
Before you even realize it, it might be time for you to put on your beautiful bridal gown with all your bridesmaids still there to lend you a hand. Do all these so you can walk down the aisle with no traces of stress at all.
Create a Positive Environment
Your outer environment has a natural effect on your inner state of affairs. Make sure that you take some time to set up and prepare your area for getting ready. Play your favorite soothing sounds, surround yourself with your favorite flowers, burn candles with calming scents, and tell your whole bridal party to stay calm and carry out during the day. Of course, don’t forget how powerful a smile can be to stay more relaxed and upbeat.
Feel the Experience with Your Heart
Now, this day is not just any ordinary day when you should be at your prettiest. It is your wedding day, one of the biggest and most important days of your whole life.
You will be tying the knot with the person you have long been dreaming of, the person who loves you and accepts you for who and what you are.
You will be exchanging wedding vows with that man you will cry and laugh with and spend many years of your life with.
Isn’t it such a wonderful feeling that needs to be cherished and felt? No matter how you choose to treasure this moment, what matters here is for you to take time to feel and process all those feelings. You deserve that!
Nurture Your Body
The last thing you want is to be walking down the aisle feeling hangry. No one wants that! Remember that it is that special day when you will be the focus of attention. You need to stay enthusiastic and energetic all day long and to make it possible, you can use all the sustenance available at your disposal.
Be sure to have a bottle of water by your side all the time, with a clean straw to keep your lipstick in place. Don’t be afraid to take a sip every now and then throughout the day. See to it that you also reward yourself with proper nutritious meals. Don’t be afraid to take time to sit down and eat your meals mindfully for optimal digestion. You can also ask the help of your bridesmaid to keep you in check when it comes to your food and drinks.
Take a Pause
Your big day starts right from the moment you open your eyes in the morning to the moment you close your eyes at night. This means that your wedding doesn’t begin once you start walking down the aisle. People might have been telling you to take in and enjoy every moment. Unfortunately, staying in the moment is easier said than done.
What is even scary here is that many brides often have foggy and unclear memories of how their wedding day went about because their mind and hands were full the whole day.
For you to truly live and enjoy this special moment, there are several things you can do to slow down with no need to physically slow down in the first place:
- Scan your whole body from head to toe for existing sensations as you get your hair done.
- Take full and deep breaths and feel your belly as it rises on inhale and falls on exhale while your makeup is applied.
- Tune in to all your senses while your photos are taken.
- Go through all the reasons for marrying the man you love during the trip to the venue.
- As you walk down the aisle, be sure to appreciate all the people who are there to offer you their help and support.
- Throughout the ceremony, listen with care to every single word being spoken by the officiant.
- Be sure to feel the sensations of your spouse’s lips on yours once you share your first kiss as a married couple.